Keeping up the spirit when things get tough
It can happen that after a while of online dating, you find yourself in a slump. Your previous matches haven't led to anything and it seems like you're not making any progress. Secretly, you wonder if finding true love is meant for you. You're not the only one experiencing this. Sometimes, finding the right partner takes a bit longer. The magic word here is perseverance. To help you through this dip, we have some tips for you.
We all know a story of someone who found the perfect match in just a few days. It can happen that it's right on the first try, but this is rare. The truth is that it takes a while before you find someone who truly fits you. Are you facing a rough patch with dating? With these tips, you'll regain confidence in the future!
Be curious
Dating often comes with unrealistic expectations. This leads to disappointment sooner or later. Avoid these disappointments by approaching singles in an open and curious manner. Don't get carried away by all kinds of fantasies but focus on the person in front of you. Who are they? Do you share the same life goals? What do they value? By adopting an inquisitive attitude, you stay close to reality and don't get swept away by an ideal image. This way, you won't be thrown off if it turns out that person isn't a match for you.
You have to learn online dating
Many people don't realize that online dating requires quite a bit of skill. You need to know how to make contacts, how to use functionalities, and how to express yourself in writing. These are things you have to learn. So don't be too hard on yourself if finding the right partner doesn't happen immediately! Like everything in life, online dating is something you have to learn!
Don't make assumptions for others
You started exchanging messages so enthusiastically and suddenly you don't hear anything anymore! What happened? Did you say something wrong? Are you not interesting enough? When a promising match suddenly goes silent, it can greatly make you doubt yourself. Most people assume it's their fault. They did something that caused the other person to lose interest. However, this is rarely the case. People have various reasons for staying away. Maybe family matters are currently a priority, or they realize they're not ready for a new relationship yet. So don't make assumptions for others, but let it go and instead invest your time in finding your dream match.
Greater chances of finding true love
One of the biggest advantages of online dating is that you can fish from an exceptionally large pond. While your grandparents had to make do with people from their immediate vicinity, you can date people from all over the world. Therefore, the chance that you find someone who fits you is much greater than that of your ancestors!
Update your profile!
If you keep encountering the same type of singles and are not progressing in your dating adventure, it's time to rethink your strategy. Go back to your profile and check if what you've written still holds true. Maybe you indicated that you like adventurous types, but you find yourself more attracted to quiet people. Feel free to adjust that. Try out a different profile picture or change a few texts. Experiment with your profile so you attract different singles. Who knows, this might help you meet your dream match!